Narcissists devalue their partners as a form of self-defense and control. There are two types of devaluation: preemptive and reactive. Preemptive devaluation occurs when a narcissist is in a transitional state between overt and covert narcissism, and they devalue potential
Narcissists and psychopaths are attracted to anyone who can provide them with attention and supply, regardless of their background or personality. Alienated children often grow up with emotional damage and may repeat dysfunctional patterns in their own relationships. Narcissists and
Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of modern societal norms on women’s behavior and psychology. He argues that women have been forced to adopt male values and expectations, leading to a shift in their behavior and self-perception. Vaknin also highlights the
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that we are not in a period of transition, but rather in a period of breakdown, meltdown, and disintegration of civilization. He provides five differential criteria to distinguish between transition and disintegration, including the emergence of
Loving a narcissist is a painful experience due to their lack of empathy, idealization followed by devaluation, and inability to truly connect with their partner. The narcissist’s inaccessibility and indifference can be devastating, as they often discard their partners without
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the philosophical dimensions of abortion, including the rights and obligations of the mother and fetus, as well as the ethical implications of terminating a pregnancy. He explores the concept of contracts between the mother and fetus,
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the state of psychology education and the shift towards quantitative and statistical approaches in the field. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining a textual and qualitative approach to psychology, and laments the loss of wisdom from
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissism in relation to Freud and Jung’s theories. He explains how narcissism is the defining feature of personality and how it is linked to the development of the self. Vaknin
Healthy narcissism underlines personal development and growth well into one’s teenage years, and is beneficial for adolescents to mature and become adults. Adolescents go through a phase of separation individuation, where they develop object relations or relationships with objects. All
The transcript is a conversation between Coach Eleanor, a therapist specializing in communication and relationships, and Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism. They discuss various aspects of narcissism, including its development, the role of trauma, the grieving child within