Vaknin Talks

Full transcripts of Sam Vaknin's videos

Narcissist and God: Love-Hate Relationship

The narcissist has a love-hate relationship with God, who is everything the narcissist wants to be. The narcissist alternately idealizes and devalues authority figures, and God is the ultimate authority figure. The narcissist maintains a facade of love for God

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Narcissist’s False Self vs. True Self: Soul-snatching

The narcissist’s life is a spectacle, with free access to all, constantly on display. The narcissist flaunts a false self to solicit narcissistic supply, attention, and admiration from his audience. The false self is an adaptive reaction to pathological circumstances,

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Narcissists: Their Professions, Jobs, and Vocations

Narcissists are over-represented in certain professions, including teaching, the clergy, show business, corporate management, medicine, the military, law enforcement, politics, and sports. They gravitate towards these professions to construct self-enclosed spaces where they are divine, god-like figures with a coterie

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Narcissists: Alien Life-forms, Lack Empathy!

Narcissists lack the ability to empathize, which is what makes them seem like alien lifeforms, robots, automata, or machines. Empathy is what binds humans together and is the essence of what it means to be human. Narcissists cannot truly communicate

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Narcissists: Somatic vs. Cerebral

Narcissists are addicted to narcissistic supply, which is attention, adoration, admiration, and adulation. There are two types of narcissists: somatic and cerebral. Somatic narcissists leverage their body and sexual prowess to garner attention, while cerebral narcissists use their intellect and

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Self-help After the Narcissist: Regaining Yourself

Recovery from narcissistic abuse involves a structured approach to regain agency, authenticity, mindfulness, and personhood. It is essential to shift from an external locus of control to an internal one, emphasizing personal autonomy and responsibility while rejecting a victim identity.

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