Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in narcissistic relationships, where the narcissist seeks to separate and become an individual by luring an intimate partner into a fantasy. He explains that the shared fantasy is about separation,
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the mind of a sexually sadistic killer, explaining that killing is the ultimate intimacy for this type of murderer. He describes the killer’s experience during the act of killing, the aftermath, and the
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of adverse childhood experiences on adulthood. He explains that childhood largely determines adulthood and attachment styles are almost cast in stone. He emphasizes that childhood experiences have a direct impact on adulthood and discusses
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in relationships, particularly in the context of narcissism and psychopathy. He explains that while the psychopath customizes the fantasy to fit the partner, the narcissist coerces the partner to fit
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of love in relationships involving individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). He explains that narcissists are incapable of genuine love due to their cognitive style, fear of vulnerability, and
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses grandiosity and its deconstruction. Grandiosity involves cognitive distortions, unconscious and conscious operations, and multiple biases and psychological processes. It includes ideas of reference, object apophenia, and social pareidolia. Grandiosity is a core element of pathological narcissism
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of triangulation and narcissistic snapshotting in relationships. Triangulation is used by narcissists to weaken and control their victims by involving third parties and creating insecurity. Narcissistic snapshotting refers to the narcissist’s idealized and unchanging
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of victimhood and its different forms. He explains traditional victimhood, identity victimhood, and vigilante victimhood, and how they are used to gain benefits and attention. He also addresses the infiltration of victimhood movements by
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various types of financial frauds and scams, including charity scams, banking scams, debt relief scams, Nigerian scams, grandparent scams, and more. He emphasizes the importance of being cautious with online communication and not giving out personal
Professor Sam Vaknin introduces a new view of addiction, presenting five metaphors or narratives to understand addiction. He explains that addiction is a natural state of the brain and that the brain is an addiction machine. He argues that addiction